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Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Rejected by the Marines

The Marines don't want me. I was at the high school tonight and a table was set up with several brochures and  two impressive recruiters standing behind it.  As I passed the table one of the gentlemen asked:

"Ready to join the Marines, Sir?" 
"Sure!" I replied.
"OOH, I  wasn't expecting that answer!"  he responded with a little sarcasm in his voice.

Two can play this game, you know. 

 "What, you mean there's an age limit?" I asked with a serious expression.
"Yes Sir, 28. What are you, about 29 or 30?"  He responded with the same look.
"Yes I am."  I said with a smile.
He smiled back and informed me,  "I'm very sorry Sir, you don't qualify."

The three of us broke into laughter, I wished them well and they returned the gesture.  It's hard to quibble about my snow colored hair and middle age being the joke of the day when I've finally earned the title 'Sir'!...AND I LIKE BEING CALLED SIR!!!

Monday, March 26, 2012

YOU make a difference!

Today's memory was inspired by the latest blog entry by my daughter Karen, who graduated from Temple University in May, 2011, and is now a teacher.  In it, she had been at an IEP meeting for one of her students and a dialogue that had occurred between the student and an IEP team member was relayed:


CST Member: Do you want to go to college?
Student: [Nonchalantly] Yes. I'm going to Temple.
CST Member: Oh! Why Temple?
Student: [Looking at the CST member as if she was crazy for even asking the question; as if to say "Duh!"] It's where my teacher went.

Instantly, a conversation between one of my students and me from around four years ago came to mind.  You see, the Reading Department at the Elementary School I work in celebrates everything.  When there is a birthday in the department, the food and celebration occur two days before the birthday so everyone can graze for two extra days.  The small group that my sassy little pupil was in met in the office where the food was.  Here is the dialogue that took place that day:


Student:  I want to be a Reading teacher when I grow up.
Me:          Oh really, Why?
Student:   [As if to say "Duh!"]  Because I love to read and I love to eat!!

I am seriously inspired by and proud of my little girl today and the fine young woman she has grown up to be.  She is making a difference...............

Saturday, March 24, 2012

This Loud Morning

                                                  
  I would not make a very good professional record reviewer.  First, I could never publish a review of a recording on the day it was released.  Second, I couldn't review a record after listening to snipets of tracks or even after only one listen.  A professional reviewer would have to do just that given the time constraint to get a review in print, and the pressure of reviewing more than one album at a time.  Recently, I have read reviews of This Loud Morning, the latest effort by David Cook, season seven American Idol champion. 

     The review in Entertainment Weekly was only a single paragraraph and didn't offer a bit of constructive criticism or praise, and lacked purpose other than to comment on Cook's admiration of late '90's post-grunge bands.  Maybe if he wore more shirts made of beef or had song titles requiring asterisks instead of vowels, the attention would have been taken away from his influences.   All Music offered a little longer and more endearing account of the album as a whole, but didn't offer any insight into the concept of the album or interpretation of any of its songs, only the voice and the conviction, which were a given.

     Cook first caught my eye and my ears when he was a contestant on Idol.  I had never been a fan of Idol other than to listen to the new wannabes strut their stuff.  I first took notice of David when passing the television while he was singing Happy Together, the old Turtles' classic.  Since the '60's are my favorite era of music, I couldn't help but notice the little bit of extra eccentricity, if you will, in the delivery of the song, as well as a uniquely smooth but raspy singing voice.  That season, I kept tuning in to Idol weekly to see the talented newcomers, but most of all to hear what David Cook would do next.  His unique interpretations of Hello by Lionel Richie, The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face by Roberta Flack, Music of the Night from Phantom of the Opera, and my personal favorite, Always Be My Baby by Mariah Carey had me hooked on Cook.  When he won that season I felt that America had gotten it right.

     His self titled, first big label album is a favorite in my collection, boasting the hits Time of My Life, Light On, and Come Back to Me.  As with most albums, though, it is listening beyond the hits that brings forth the hidden jewels that hit home, especially Permanent, a ballad written for his brother, Adam, who was suffering from a brain tumor at the time of the album's release.  The poignant lyrics could have easily been written as an homage to my sister, Janet, who fought pancreatic cancer as I listened to this gem for the first time.  I was fortunate enough to share this song with her and we were both consumed by its message of hope in a hopeless situation.  No one wants to deal with the imminent loss of someone he loves so dearly.  He would take his or her place in a heartbeat to lessen the hellacious journey.  Our loved ones never leave us permanently, so we are permanent.

     Now, three years later,  there is This Loud Morning.  I have read several interviews given by Cook to magazines, like Songwriter's Universe in which he expresses the desire to let the theme of the piece be open to the interpretation of the listener.  If that isn't an invitation to pour more words into my blog, I don't know what is!  So here's my take:

     The first thing that caught my eye was the title of the first track - Circadian. I needed to look this word up because I had never heard it before.  What I found was that a synonym for circadian was cycle.  The 24 hour period that includes physical, emotional and psychological rhythms, is built upon in this record.  For me, the cycle in this song is that it is the initiation of a concept album, and if one were to look into my music listening past, there would be a collection within a collection of concept albums, from the Beatles' Abbey Road in the '60's, to Carole King's Fantasy and countless Moody Blues albums in the '70's, to the Alan Parson's Project's Eye in the Sky in the '80's,  and many more, and they are among my favorite albums of all time.  This Loud Morning continues the cycle of my being hooked on albums that tell a story into the new mellinium.  This opening song and its reprise at the end of Rapid Eye Movement, the album's final track, haunt me and put me into a melancholy, peaceful, pensive state of mind, much like Coldplay's Clocks and the Moodies' Nights in White Satin.  The day ends with questions and the promise they'll be answered, and the uncertainty is haunting, much like the echoes and harmonies I hear.

     In Right Here, With You, the cycle is the everyday challenge that can make today and tonight seem like the end of the world, and the family...the wife and children...are the constants I can depend on to stay by me until tomorrow comes. 

     My tardiness in posting a review of this album brings another cycle into focus.  As I anticipated the album's release, I was about to lose another family member.  The album was released on June 28, 2011, and my mother passed away a day later. We Believe is the Permanent of this album for me.  It's the one that hits closest to home.   The cycle here is that we can survive each heartbreaking event, though each is like hitting a wall that we can't climb for a time.  We stumble, and then believe there is hope we can continue to live and be strong enough to survive the pain, and that we're not alone.  As a statement of humanity and spirituality, the lyrics in We Believe have been comforting and profound.

     The Last Goodbye and Goodbye to the Girl are yet two more songs about the cycle of relationships that have gone extinct after having been endangered beyond rekindling.........and so it goes.

     Paper Heart is one of my favorite tracks and has one of my favorite lines on the album:  "What use is a paper heart when you're stuck in the rain."  This is so profound to me as one who feels threatened by the passage of time in every relationship.  Whether it is by relocation, hectic schedules, or even death, every relationship is fragile and rain can come without warning.  A vicious cycle........

     Each Cook track is a cycle in itself, with a beginning, middle, and end; and  remarkably personal lyrics and earnestly produced music, and the album's cycle is completed with Rapid Eye Movement and the closing plea......"May Day, Somebody save me!"

     I love this album.  It is a showcase for Cook's raspy, yet smooth voice.  Like David Cook: The Record, This Loud Morning boasts a dozen concert-ready rock anthems.  For me, there is nothing like a singer interpreting his own compositions, and I am happy that Cook co-wrote all the tracks here.  There is much talent in today's recording artists.  The trouble with the hitmakers of today is that their talent is hidden behind gimmicks, be it absurd costuming, foul language, mediocrity demanded by moguls...it's frustrating.  When an artist as articulate an thoughtful as Cook releases a recording, it deserves several cycles in the cd player or on the Ipod to absorb the haunting harmonies and learn the emotional lyrics, while appreciating the quality of the voice, which is ultimately the star of the show.


      I hope the cycle that has depreciated the quality of commercial radio broadcasting and musical taste will come around again, and that we will enjoy less gimmick and more substance.  In the meantime, I'll leave the radio off and spin this collection, and wait for the part of the cycle where I wait for a new David Cook collection to emerge.
    

Monday, March 19, 2012

After Today (A Celebration of The End of Six Days of Standardized Testing)

After today, I can answer your questions again.
After today, you will be an individual again, not a part of a group consisting of all who are your age.
After today, the program that was carefully designed for you that addresses your needs as a learner can be resumed, as long as you haven't forgotten what you learned before the 'break.' 
After today, say goodbye to the tangible rewards for your effort.  You will be praised, a big fuss will be made over your progress, but there will be no pencil grips, erasers or koosh balls given.  I've noticed that you react to the praise and the tangibles in the same way.
After today, those barren bulletin boards will be uncovered and the creativity of your teacher will be in view again for you to appreciate.
After today those stark, quiet, empty halls will be filled with your presence, and as loud and confusing as that can be, it will be good to return to the chaos.
After today, you will be educated, until the next one rolls around.

I wish our time together was more consistent.  I've missed you.  Well done, little friends.......

Saturday, March 17, 2012

TEN MORE SIGHS....YES, SIGHS OF GETTING OLDER......

.....Not signs of getting older, SIGHS of getting older! 

#10.  You are attending a church function, and standing and talking to a fellow parishoner.  A gal you haven't seen for years is also in attendance and has seen you talking to the guy.  She assumes that he is your son, whom she hasn't seen in many years.  Nothing offensive here except that your son is 26 years old and the guy you were talking to is 40.  Can you say Big Brother?........Sigh........

#9.     You are preparing your daily morning fiber fix and go to pour cinnamon on your oatmeal.  You forget that one side of the lid of those containers has little holes and the other side is just one big hole.  Well, you have inadvertantly opened the wrong side of the lid and suddenly have a quarter cup of cinnamon on your breakfast.  It's frowned upon to eat that much cinnamon, no matter how much your declining memory will improve............Sigh.........

#8     You have taken notice of your sudden sensitivity to the temperature and draftiness of your house in the winter, and you run upstairs and put on your favorite Cardigan sweater.  When you return to the family room to get comfortable, your wife takes great pleasure in telling you that you look like Mr. Rogers in that sweater............♪♪♫♫It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood, A beautiful day for a neighbor, Would you be mine.......♪♪♫♫........Sigh...........

#7.     Circa earlier this century......A coworker decides that you look like Fonzie....a.k.a. Henry Winkler.   You suddenly feel the need to interject that she's not talkin' the '70's Fonzie with the 'Hey' and the 'Whoa' and the motorcycle....she's talking the 00's Fonzie with the white hair and the seasoned skin, weighing ten or fifty pounds more than he did in the '70's.  She decides to ask your other coworkers if they agree.  She doesn't say, "Doesn't Joe look like Fonzie?"  She says, "Who does Joe look like?"  You would have welcomed Fonzie or Henry Winkler as an answer to that question, but instead the responses ranged from Alfred Hitchcock to Albert Einstein.... Sigh..........

#6.   Your fascination with Ebenezer Scrooge and grumpy old men has earned you the title of curmudgeon from your coworkers.  One of them has just become familiar with the term, but likes the sound of it, and thinks it appropriate to prominently label your workspace with a post it saying Curmudgeon Joe.  Coincidentally, it is announced to you that a teacher in the school has given the word curmudgeon as a word-of-the-day. When the teacher comes into your room, you show her your new identification post it and you both get a good laugh.  Before you can say Bob Cratchit's your uncle, a usually quiet mannerly young student from that teacher's class begins calling you Curmudgeon Joe.  He says it so that only you can hear it.  You accept that coming out of his shell moment and move on......Sigh.....

#5.   Sometime later, the same student from #6 above is sorting spelling word cards and some fall on the floor.  He looks at you and you at him, and you reveal that you're retired from picking things up from the floor.  Your new name, at least from this young man, is Curmudgeon Joe Who is Retired From Picking Things Up From the Floor, and is whispered so quietly, and with such an innocent smile, that the act is deemed an act of endearment, not one of disrespect.  If it were any other kid.......Double Sigh......

#4.  You get a call from your cheerful auto insurance representative informing you of the new discounts you've earned on your auto insurance!  Being a cheap....er.....frugal person, you welcome any discounts you can get.  Your ecstacy turns to dissatisfaction when you learn that the discounts were given to you because you are now 55 and still alive...........Sigh........

#3.  You remember fondly the days when a friend or neighbor would pass by in a car that boasted an individual expression of who he or she was.  You recognized the smiling face behind the wheel, and waved and smiled back.  That type of acknowledgement warmed your heart, for you've always relished being accepted and liked.  Then one day, that friend or neighbor behind the wheel waved and you couldn't see a face as a result of  tinted windows, similarly designed vehicles, and, of course, your deteriorating eyesight.  You've begun waving and smiling to every car that passes.  Your wife wonders why you wave to every vehicle you see, for she is still eyeing old folks' Homes for you.  "Who's that?" she'll say.  You reply, "I don't know."  The search for the Home is hastened.........Sigh........

#2.  Circa March of 2010:  You are introducing a new vocabulary word to your fourth grade small group.  The word is DISCARD.  You ask for prior knowledge of the word.  A young lady in your group raises her hand and tells you that it's what happens in old people's card games. You ask what an old people's card game is. She says, "You know."  You answer, "No I don't!"  She chortles and says, "Yes you do!"  You grimace and say, "No, I don't!"  She belly laughs and yells, "YES YOU DO!"  You grind your teeth and say, "NO I DON'T!"  She laughs uncontrollably and shouts, "YES YOU DO!!"  Being the adult in the group, you appreciate the moment,  reel the group back in, explain DISCARD, and move on to the next word......Sigh........

#1.  Circa today:  You don't like clutter.  You have this illness called Putitawaybeforeshe'sfinishedwithit-itis and it gets worse every year.  Of course, the she referred to herein is your wife and she is cooking an Irish St. Patrick's Day dinner.  As soon as she leaves the kitchen, you assume she's finished for awhile and put the knives in the dishwasher and the spices in the cabinets prompting her to take the things out again and say, "If you put one of these things away before tonight, I'm calling the Home!"  She sounds serious, so for the rest of the day, when you put things away, you take them right back out again 'cause she's serious!.......Sigh......

In honor of the day, I'm posting in the colors represented on the Irish flag.  My Facebook status for today reads:  I am not Irish, but I married a little Irish, and my kids are a little Irish, and some friends are a little Irish, and I ♥ a little Irish! Happy St. Patrick's Day to all!



Happy St. Patrick's Day to all!


Wednesday, March 14, 2012

55 and Still Alive Versus 18 and Still Don't Drive!

It constantly amazes me how different my four children are from each other.  Oh, we all watched Sesame Street and we sang the same lullabies for each of them when they were toddlers.  They each rode the same style of Big Wheel, swung on the same swing set,  and took swimming lessons at age four. 

As they became their own persons, however, the subtle and not so subtle differences worked their way to the surface.   Soon, Sesame Street was taken over by Star Wars, Star Trek, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Gilmore Girls, and Cartoon Network.  The lullabyes mutated into heavy metal, hard rock, a capella, boy bands, female vocal power houses, French musicals, Broadway musicals and Japanese and Korean Pop music.  It all depended on the identity and age of the child in question.

One of the things that has astonished me the most is the differences in their desires at 16 to drive or not to drive.  Kevin, the eldest of the four, and Karen, the only girl, wanted to drive right away.  In fact, Karen made me drive to the Department of Motor Vehicles on the day of her 16th birthday to take her permit examination because SHE HAD TO HAVE THE DOCUMENT THAT DAY!  Unfortunately, when the time came to register, we had only her Social Security Number, and one needs an original Social Security card to obtain a permit.  Her card was in the Safe Deposit Box at the bank.  Sorry, Karen.  Correction....Sorry, Dad.  After a few tears from her and a few gasps and sighs from me, we were off to the bank to get the Social Security Card.  Keep in mind that it was a 35 to 40 minute drive from one of the landmarks to the other.....But, being the sucker for tears...er...patient and kind man that I am, I drove her to the bank and back to the DMV.  We parked and proceeded to the door, where an officer let us in and immediately locked the door to latecomers.  We were the last registrants of the day, and Karen earned her permit!  Whew!  Six months to the day later, she was a licensed driver because SHE HAD TO HAVE THE DOCUMENT THAT DAY!

I don't have the strength to retell the story of Number Two Son, John's getting his license at age 24, but you can glance at this blog entry from September of 2011 to read his story, and feel my anxiety. 

It's time now for Son Number Three, Child Number Four, a.k.a. Brian, to get his license.  The feeling of anxiety is prevalent, and the desire to retire as his taxi driver is increasing.  To give you a glimpse of a moment in the life of a chauffer, consider this dialogue from our journey from play practice at school to his voice and piano lessons about 20 minutes away:

Brian:  Do you want me to use my headphones or do you want to hear my music?
Dad:  Use your headphones.
Brian:  Okay, we don't need to have father-son conversaton time.
Dad:  Okay, you can play your music. By the way, I'm going to stay outside in the car during your lessons.
Brian:  Why don't you go to Walmart instead of sitting in the car?
Dad:  Because I stayed home from work today because I felt sick and I really don't feel like going to Walmart.
Brian:  Okay, but if you went, you could get white bread for French toast, and Cinnamon Toast Crunch and soft taco shells.

I sighed.  What followed was 10 minutes of Korean pop music with no father-son conversation.  It seems like when the lyrics aren't in English, it becomes a beautiful day for a daydream for me.  As we approached our destination, it suddenly occurred to me who was controlling the ride, and I said, "Oh, like do you want me to use headphones or like do you want to have conversation, man?"  We both laughed; he proceeded to his lessons; I went to Walmart; and on the way home, we heard more Korean pop music.

Yes, 55 and Still Alive wants to see 18 and Still Don't Drive become a motor vehicle operator, as soon as the former's desire to retire expands, and his anxiety dwindles......

 
 

Monday, March 12, 2012

A sad moment.........

I am a friendly but quiet, private person.  As one who tries to be a listener, and to live and let live, I find it ironic that those that know me and my life the least are the ones that know what is best for me.  They confront me in front of anyone, anywhere using guilt and embarrassment as tactics to persuade me.  I thought that kind of behavior was reserved for junior and senior high school.  Fortunately, as I've aged, I am less of a pushover than ever, know myself better than ever, and do my best not succumb to the pressure.  Still, I wish they would show the same compassion, know when they've overstepped their boundaries, and back off.  I don't think they'll succumb either............makes me sad.

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